29 Secrets

It’s almost impossible not to take it personally when your guy doesn’t want sex. I mean, we’re constantly hearing about guys being horn-dogs who are always ready for sex, right? So what’s a girl to do when her guy seems to have lost interest in getting’ busy? For starters, stop blaming yourself because chances are that it’s not you, it’s him.

We hear a lot about low libido in women in the news and magazines, and spam emails about products to boost a woman’s low libido have become almost as common as Viagra spam! But what we aren’t hearing enough about—though there are more and more reports popping up—is low libido in men. As it turns out, there are more men suffering from a loss of interest in sex then there are women. How’s that for news?!

Yes, as it turns out, a guy not wanting sex is becoming more and more common. The reason for this? Well, there are several and most of which have nothing to do with you. Unless there is something going on in the relationship that has led to some sort of resentment, the reasons for low libido in men are usually medical and can include: stress, fatigue, depression, anxiety, low testosterone levels, and even certain medications. So again, for the ladies at the back: It’s NOT you!

It’s easy to assume that he’s not attracted to you or even jump to the conclusion that he’s getting it elsewhere, but the majority of the time this is not the case. Give yourself a little credit and know that of there was something wrong enough in the relationship to put your guy off of sex, then you would know it. A loss of interest in sex isn’t as uncommon as you think and it isn’t hopeless either. Just remember that this is going to be as touchy as subject to him as it is to you, so tread carefully when talking about it and please-oh-please try to refrain from saying anything derogatory or insulting. Crushing his manliness ain’t gonna get you far and playing the pity party and acting insecure like it’s all your fault won’t help matters either. Try to get into his head and see what, if anything is bothering him and if he insists he’s fine emotionally, then find a calm and rational way to bring up the possibilities of something being physically wrong. A visit to the doctor for a checkup with some blood work could be all that’s needed to figure out why he’s lost interest in sex and how to go about getting it back.