Signs You Might be a Maneater

Signs You Might be a Maneater

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Feisty, confident, aggressive – every night out is a real life episode of Survivor for a maneater: You’re here to Outwit. Outplay. Outlast. Whether that means sticking with him until the lights come on and everyone else has long gone, nursing your drinks while buying him shots to weaken his resolve, or waiting in his tent at the end of the night wearing nothing but a smile, you get what you want and never take no for an answer.

As if any of the above is not confirmation enough, three more signs that you are a certified maneater:

Maneater Menu: The most unattainable guy in the room
He’s a part-time underwear model, working nights in a lab curing cancer, who isn’t really into brunettes?
Your Olympic-calibre focus and determination can overcome any of these minor hurdles. You don't even necessarily want that guy, you just want what he represents: the gold medal. Your drive to ‘win’ the best-looking guy in the room may come at the expense of quality time out with girlfriends, but hey, you’ve decided that he’s going home with you, and you always get your way.

Maneater Motto: Use him up, throw him out
A maneater is usually dating a few guys at once, some of them more seriously than others, most with the depth of your standard sidewalk puddle. You consider men good for one thing: ego-boosting! The more willing the guy is to pony up free tickets, nice dinners, weekends away, and exclusive opening night passes, the more likely you are to keep him around. If, however, he ceases catering to you with material gifts and he therefore outlasts his usefulness, the thud will be heard for miles.

Maneater Maxim: A guy with a girlfriend is just more of a challenge
A maneater only worries about societal norms when it’s convenient for her. She dismisses girl-code repeatedly for her own gain. A maneater has no problem catching a guy, it's keeping him around that’s difficult. So it makes sense for her to be jealous of monogamous, committed relationships and to see them as a test. Maneaters are rarely surprised when friends are protective of their guys; Heck, even Chanel model Vanessa Paradis allegedly asked hubby Johnny Depp to decline a movie role recently. Why? The romantic lead in The Tourist was being played by the ultimate maneater: Angelina Jolie.

Is someone in your life a maneater, to the point where it’s negatively affected your friendship?

Has anyone ever referred to you as a maneater, and do you find the term offensive or empowering?

 
 

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Anonymous's picture

Angelina Jolie is not a bad person, the trashy magazines just painted her that way.

Anonymous's picture

Man-eater is not offensive. Men seem to get away with treating women as 'disposable' all the time. I don't think you should hurt that so called 'good guys' - but they are much harder to come by. Eat those playboys up girls!

Anonymous's picture

I'm guilty of this.
I was never personally "hurt" by those guys, but I saw the ditziness of the girls in relationships of the grade school kind and though "Damn, these girls are seriously stupid", so I (unknowingly) branded myself and became a maneater- revenge and defiance against those types of guys.
Before I was proud of it, I didn't use the term maneater, but I spoke of what I did as empowered. I never stuck around to date any of these guys, lost interest and what not. Then I met this guy, not hot or anything, just unattainable. Heck, I didn't even want to befriend him. But (as usual) I went out of my way to get him interested, and when it was around the time to lose him...I couldn't. I didn't want to [Note: Please don't mistake this as "falling in love", love is something else].
Basically I took a good look at myself: I was flirty and playful for my own gain. I didn't care about those people. I was equally pathetic as those ego boost seeking playboys. I was using people for my own amusement. The selfesteem high came with a crash. I got so used to being a come and go flirt, that when I wanted something real, I didn't know how to stay.
No integrity, no honesty. For some reason, we think doing something guys do equals "girl power" even if it's wrong. We shouldn't stereotype all the males as hunters and females as victims. Those are just the ones in the limelight, we rarely see the big picture. Character is not picky on gender, there are good guys, if we allow them to be gentlemen, instead of setting them up to be jerks.
I no longer dress like a slut and I'm working on behaviour. I want something better for myself, and I'm tired of dragging people down.

Anonymous's picture

i have heard women be called maneaters and it sounds empowering bc she has the power in her romantic relationships and decides what she wants for herself. this article describes a pathetic, cruel spirited creature that angelina jolie does NOT deserve to be labelled.
she is a mother of 6 and spouse to brad pitt since 2005, being credited w/ breaking him and his ex wife up. give me a break. she gets men, not because she is evil and tricks them, but because she is easily one of the most beautiful women to have ever lived and an undeniably intriguing personality - nothing about her says pathetic the way that this article describes. brad pitt left jennifer aniston, angelina did not make him do this. HIS marriage was HIS responsibility and ultimately no one knows what happened. and has it ever occured to anyone that maybe brad is a grown man capable of making his own decisions? angelina jolie didn't STEAL him: jennifer aniston lost him. if he cheated on his wife, where is the brad bashing?!
jennifer aniston has dated a full roster of men for short, meaningless relationships for the past 5 years. not that there is anything wrong with that, but to be fair, compare that to what angelina's been doing with her last half decade (married, kids, humanitarian work on top of a packed schedule) and tell me who is more of a maneater

Anonymous's picture

What a response!
If only other people were so self-reflective.
It's a beautiful quality.
I hope you find the happiness and satisfaction that you're looking for.

Anonymous's picture

i got called a man eater at work and yet i dont do nething but be myself kind and compassionate im in a relationship and have been faithful for two years now and he is much much older then me , is it wrong for me to become friends with males if they fall head over heels for me even though all i intended to do is to be friends i think its their fault for not handling their emotions , i was very offended to be called a man eater that swallows them and spits them out makes me wander if male and females can have friendships without crossing the line...

Anonymous's picture

Angelina Jolie is not a bad person, the trashy magazines just painted her that way.

Anonymous's picture

Man-eater is not offensive. Men seem to get away with treating women as 'disposable' all the time. I don't think you should hurt that so called 'good guys' - but they are much harder to come by. Eat those playboys up girls!

Anonymous's picture

I'm guilty of this.
I was never personally "hurt" by those guys, but I saw the ditziness of the girls in relationships of the grade school kind and though "Damn, these girls are seriously stupid", so I (unknowingly) branded myself and became a maneater- revenge and defiance against those types of guys.
Before I was proud of it, I didn't use the term maneater, but I spoke of what I did as empowered. I never stuck around to date any of these guys, lost interest and what not. Then I met this guy, not hot or anything, just unattainable. Heck, I didn't even want to befriend him. But (as usual) I went out of my way to get him interested, and when it was around the time to lose him...I couldn't. I didn't want to [Note: Please don't mistake this as "falling in love", love is something else].
Basically I took a good look at myself: I was flirty and playful for my own gain. I didn't care about those people. I was equally pathetic as those ego boost seeking playboys. I was using people for my own amusement. The selfesteem high came with a crash. I got so used to being a come and go flirt, that when I wanted something real, I didn't know how to stay.
No integrity, no honesty. For some reason, we think doing something guys do equals "girl power" even if it's wrong. We shouldn't stereotype all the males as hunters and females as victims. Those are just the ones in the limelight, we rarely see the big picture. Character is not picky on gender, there are good guys, if we allow them to be gentlemen, instead of setting them up to be jerks.
I no longer dress like a slut and I'm working on behaviour. I want something better for myself, and I'm tired of dragging people down.

Anonymous's picture

i have heard women be called maneaters and it sounds empowering bc she has the power in her romantic relationships and decides what she wants for herself. this article describes a pathetic, cruel spirited creature that angelina jolie does NOT deserve to be labelled.
she is a mother of 6 and spouse to brad pitt since 2005, being credited w/ breaking him and his ex wife up. give me a break. she gets men, not because she is evil and tricks them, but because she is easily one of the most beautiful women to have ever lived and an undeniably intriguing personality - nothing about her says pathetic the way that this article describes. brad pitt left jennifer aniston, angelina did not make him do this. HIS marriage was HIS responsibility and ultimately no one knows what happened. and has it ever occured to anyone that maybe brad is a grown man capable of making his own decisions? angelina jolie didn't STEAL him: jennifer aniston lost him. if he cheated on his wife, where is the brad bashing?!
jennifer aniston has dated a full roster of men for short, meaningless relationships for the past 5 years. not that there is anything wrong with that, but to be fair, compare that to what angelina's been doing with her last half decade (married, kids, humanitarian work on top of a packed schedule) and tell me who is more of a maneater

Anonymous's picture

What a response!
If only other people were so self-reflective.
It's a beautiful quality.
I hope you find the happiness and satisfaction that you're looking for.

Anonymous's picture

i got called a man eater at work and yet i dont do nething but be myself kind and compassionate im in a relationship and have been faithful for two years now and he is much much older then me , is it wrong for me to become friends with males if they fall head over heels for me even though all i intended to do is to be friends i think its their fault for not handling their emotions , i was very offended to be called a man eater that swallows them and spits them out makes me wander if male and females can have friendships without crossing the line...

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