Have you ever been in a relationship, which on the surface seemed perfect, but there was still that one thing about him you were still iffy about? Maybe he has a hard time apologizing, or you’re not sure if he’s fully committed to you. Everybody has flaws, but when it comes to love, there are several characteristics you should never have to settle for.
It can be hard to deal with people who never apologize. Being able to admit that you’re wrong and take ownership for your actions is a sign of maturity. If your boyfriend never apologizes when you express that he’s hurt you, this could be a serious red flag.
You should be with someone who will show empathy when you’re down and will want to right his wrongs. If your boyfriend hurts you in any way or does something to upset you, he should make the effort to make it up to you. Don’t let your man get away with everything. By always letting him off the hook, you’re only preventing him from staying hooked.
If you are with someone who wants you, but only on his own time, this could be a sign that he is not very committed to the relationship. It’s been said that men generally have a harder time committing to a relationship than do women. Unlike women who act based on their emotions, men are more logical about things. For example, women are more inclined to jump into a relationship because a guy makes her feel happy and secure. Men, on the other hand, need to make sure that the girl he ends up with possesses all the qualities he is looking for. As a result, he will spend more time playing the field before settling down.
Unless you are down with being friends with benefits or keeping things light and casual, you may want to pursue a relationship elsewhere. Non-committal guys are not likely to change very quickly so there is no point in waiting around. If he really loved you, he wouldn’t be so hesitant.
This guy is very good at manipulating you and toying with your emotions. He makes you feel like every problem the two of you have is your fault. He says the two of you are always fighting because he thinks you nitpick and complain too much. But really, you only complain because he can’t do the littlest things to show you he wants to be with you, like being on time for a date. This constant blame game isn’t healthy and you shouldn’t have to deal with it. Who wants to be with a man who places all the blame on you and makes it seem like everything’s your fault anyway? Find a new man – one who will admit to his share in an argument.
This arrogant dude isn’t willing to negotiate when the two of you butt heads. If you are with a man who never compromises, you are treading dangerous waters. A guy who doesn’t compromise can be hard to deal with. He pretty much believes that he’s great just the way he is. As a result, he makes no effort to improve and change his flaws because he believes that that’s how he’s always been, therefore that’s how he will always be.
Being in a relationship is a great way for people to discover new things about themselves and develop better interpersonal skills. Since everyone is different, you constantly have to adjust yourself to that person. But if you’re boyfriend is unwilling to adjust himself to you, you will find yourself changing more and more things about you to fit what he needs. Relationships require compromise, not conformity.
The Parental Guardian
You already spent the first 18 to 30 years of your life living under your parents’ roof and abiding by their rules. Now your boyfriend tells you that you dress too slutty and you have no manners. “Thanks, Dad. You always know just what to say.”
It can be frustrating when your boyfriend acts like your parent. Actually, it kind of sends shivers down your spine thinking about how much he reminds you of your father. First of all, you’re an adult and don’t need someone to boss you around. Secondly, a guy who treats you like a child probably craves power and authority in the relationship. Don’t let him put you down because he’s older or more experienced than you. Let him know you’re potty trained and you don’t need someone to change your diapers for you. You can expect to find this “Dad” type of guy in men who already have children.