At some point, most people will experience cheating or infidelity in a relationship and the burning question remains, can you get over it? Should you get over it? Hillary Clinton chose to stay while Elin Nordegren decided to high-tail it out of there after discovering the details of her husband's affairs.
Either way, the decision is a personal one – complex, heart-wrenching with no clear answer of what’s right and what’s wrong.
Experts say betrayal is one of the most challenging things to overcome. Not impossible but certainly an uphill battle. Re-building trust is a long-term commitment and it involves assessing whether the relationship is worth the effort to rebuild. If you chose to leave, some say it rebuilds confidence – in yourself. And you open up to the possibility of ushering it more positivity instead of wading through pools of doubt and uncertainty with someone who has let you down.
You wouldn’t be the first and you won’t be the last. Rebuilding trust is possible if both people commit to the slog ahead. The first step is to let it go – that’s right…forgive. Both yourself and the other person. While it’s easy to point fingers and blame, it doesn’t help the cause and generally the truth is far more complex then a black and white finger pointing session. Stay busy and try not to ruminate. Get out and make the most of your support networks – friends and family or pick up a new interest or hobby. Anything as long as you aren’t replaying events over and over again. And most importantly, experts suggest remembering that this process takes time and what you rebuild might end up different from what you had in the past.