No matter how many times your partner tells you they love you just the way you are, do you still feel self-conscious about your sex life? Getting between the sheets with someone can leave you feeling pretty vulnerable, whether you’re a lights on or off kind of girl. There are some things you can rest assured he genuinely doesn’t care about.
1. Shaved legs
You’ve charmed each other up, you’re kissing, you’re touching, you’re giggling and anticipation is building. The magic isn’t going to fall apart if he strokes your leg and it’s prickly. Hairy legs are seriously trivial in the grand scheme of things. Can you imagine a dude telling his friends how he hit it off with a girl but everything went from hero to zero because of a prickly calf? His friends would probably deem him the world’s biggest wimpo.
2. Perfect lingerie
Sassy matching twin sets are fun to buy and can make you feel sexy, but when you’re getting down and dirty, he probably won’t even notice if the bottom matches the top. If he’s more stoked about the silky embroidery on your bra strap than he is about kissing you, you may have a problem.
3. That you have inhibitions
No man realistically expects you to transform into a porn star the minute you get into the sack, moaning sexily, talking dirty and knowing exactly what to say. Just because it’s sexy time doesn’t mean you have to act a certain way. Be yourself. Breaking those walls down takes time.
4. That you don’t talk dirty
Like any other aspect of a relationship, knowing what your partner wants to hear and what you like to hear is a team effort takes work to achieve. He doesn’t expect you to open your mouth and automatically start spouting sweet and sexy nothings. If you feel better not saying anything at all, then don’t.
5. What, you don’t have a supermodel body?!
Your thighs, hips, cellulite, sticky out bones, asymmetrical parts are what make you you. Your partner chose to be here and there’s a reason he did. He won’t even think twice about your muffin top if you have bangin’ confidence. To him, a naked lady is a naked lady. Do you care that he doesn’t have a torso like Ryan Reynolds? Didn’t think so. If there were only one type of sex appeal, the world would be pretty boring.
Ultimately, the sexiest thing a woman can have is confidence. If you’re having a good time, your partner is having a good time. Try to let go of your qualms with your “flaws” so you and your partner can engage on a deeper level. That’s where the real sex appeal is.