10 Reasons Why Nerdy Guys Make Better Boyfriends

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10 Reasons Why Nerdy Guys Make Better Boyfriends

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While you’re too busy scoping out the gorgeous bad boy, you may be making the huge mistake of overlooking the quiet, bookish type—AKA the nerdy guy. Sure, you probably won’t share their love for Star Wars, comic books, or the inner workings of your iPad, but beneath that dorky exterior could very well be the man of your dreams. Here are 10 reasons why you should take a break from dating jerks, and start giving geekier guys a chance.

1. They’re Gentlemen

Let’s face it, geeks typically lack game. But that only really means that they haven’t resorted to lying or manipulating to pick up women. Nerds are generally honest and respectful, which is why they’ll genuinely love you for you, and you most likely won’t have to worry about getting played. Oh, and when they say they’ll call, they really will.

2. They’re Passionate

Whether their room is decked out with action figures or movie posters, geeks are usually very passionate about what they love, and that adoration will more than translate when it comes to you. Nerds are attentive, and if you let them, they’ll make you their world.

3. They Appreciate You

Because of their shy nature, most nerdy guys haven’t gained much experience in the girl department, so they tend to actually appreciate you. Your geek will more than happy to have you, and will be less likely to take you for granted, cheat, or treat you badly.

4. It’s Easy to Make Them Happy

It’s usually pretty easy to figure out what a nerd is crazy about—if it’s not plastered all over his shirt, it will be all over his bedroom. Doing a little research and picking him up a new geek gadget, or joining him and braving a comic-book-inspired movie are simple, little things that are sure to brighten his day.

5. They’re Underrated

Geeks are everywhere, so they’re pretty easy to find. They're also not necessarily in high demand, so you’ll definitely have your pick, and won’t have to worry about someone else trying to swoop in and try to steal your guy.

6. They’re Romantic

Nerds are usually sensitive and have a huge soft side, which means they can be very romantic. That not only leads to more cuddling and melt-worthy gestures, but fireworks in the bedroom too.

7. They Never Forget

Most nerds are pretty organized, so you’ll never have to worry about them forgetting special dates, like your birthday or anniversary. They also tend to be good planners; so don’t be surprised when they go out of their way to make important days that much more memorable.

8. They’ll Introduce You to New Things

Dating a geek will open up a whole new world—maybe you won’t pick up his love for Superman, but you’ll gain new experiences, meet different people and become more cultured as a result.

9. They’re Smart

Nerds are typically intelligent, well educated and more often than not, successful. You’ll never run out of things to talk about, he’ll be your go-to for advice, and he’ll most likely be a hit when you bring him home to meet the parents.

10. They’re Hot

Most nerds have an understated kind of hotness about them—granted, they’re more boy-next-door than celeb-heartthrob, but many geeks are, in their own way, stylish, adorable and yes, hot. The best part? They don’t even know it.

 
 

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Anonymous's picture

I dated a 35-yr old "nerd." Initially, it seemed like a good idea. I liked that he wasn't out at the bars every weekend getting wasted and picking up women. This nerd ended up being none of those things you wrote about....except for book smart. He believed his superior intelligence made him better than others, and believed that his superior intelligence justified his many dishonesties. He had no clue how to be romantic and didn't want to learn how. He was a self-absorbed dating dud whose Star Wars collection and gaming consoles ranked higher on his priority list than his children or a roof over his head. His mortgage was in foreclosure....rather than liquidate his $20,000 worth of collectibles, he chose to lose his house. He is now 39 and lives in his mom's basement.
Dating a nerd can have some perks, but mostly they're kiddults. If you're looking for a mature, ADULT relationship (owning a house in the future, fun daytrips or vacations together), avoid the TRUE, harcore nerd. He will sink every penny into his action figures and every moment into his nerd hobbies. Just sayin'

Anonymous's picture

I've been dating a nerdy guy four a year and a half now and he's the best person ever. As I read each point above, it made me realize just how amazing he really is! I never saw myself with this kind of guy but I took a chance with him and I'm glad I did. He's so smart and I love that he can teach me just as many things as I can teach him. He does have his weird interests but I find them cute. I'd much rather date a guy I know who will stay home on a Friday night with his friends doing nerdy stuff than be with a guy I'm unsure about and whether he's being good or bad. He likes to cuddle, he's attentive and treats me like a princess and I would ask for nothing more!!

Anonymous's picture

Yes. Don't go for 'hardcore' nerds. Try a nerd who is a bit less obsessed over somthing like starwars for example. As they will probably like their little collection of toys more than anything

Anonymous's picture

I don't think the author of this article has delved in to the cornucopia of nerd dating. It's hard to pin down the nerd referred to here (let alone any human being with these qualities). One of the things that isolated your high school nerds from the rest of society is their inability to connect with many human emotions. They can't relate. The "passion" (try obsession) mentioned upstairs is also misleading. Their passions are what drive their relationship potentials away. Just because they're capable of being passionate doesn't mean they're going to be passionate about everything. Nerds have preferences in the opposite gender just like everyone else, so pay attention still to what makes you a viable candidate for their affection. Unfortunately, nerds have become hard to find since my high school years, as they became a fashionable dating trend for the girls who used to be cheerleaders and have now turned hipster or club-goer (seriously, girls, do you have to take every man in the world away from us nerd chicks?). Read American Nerd: The Story of My People if you are truly interested in understanding nerds and not desperately seeking someone to fulfill your need for the above unrealistic worship. If you're looking for someone to idolize you, try starting with someone with whom you share interests, activities and morals. Duh.

Anonymous's picture

Sounds like you're just projecting Megan, sorry you had such a rough time dating. It seems more you're the pretentious self idolizing girl who is too self conscious to let someone fully love her. You say, 'obsession' no one obsesses over you, that is your self idolizing talking again. Nerds are so self conscious they don't try after they are shut down, they learned how to take the hint. You really need to grow up and stop hating on nerds, really the most straight forward guys I have ever met.
They'll always have a place in my heart <3

Anonymous's picture

You forgot Reason # 11: Nerds typically have low self-esteem and are easy to control and manipulate,

Anonymous's picture

this girl im talking to sent me this in a link because she says it reminds me of me, and its pretty accurate lol awesome

Anonymous's picture

I dated a 35-yr old "nerd." Initially, it seemed like a good idea. I liked that he wasn't out at the bars every weekend getting wasted and picking up women. This nerd ended up being none of those things you wrote about....except for book smart. He believed his superior intelligence made him better than others, and believed that his superior intelligence justified his many dishonesties. He had no clue how to be romantic and didn't want to learn how. He was a self-absorbed dating dud whose Star Wars collection and gaming consoles ranked higher on his priority list than his children or a roof over his head. His mortgage was in foreclosure....rather than liquidate his $20,000 worth of collectibles, he chose to lose his house. He is now 39 and lives in his mom's basement.
Dating a nerd can have some perks, but mostly they're kiddults. If you're looking for a mature, ADULT relationship (owning a house in the future, fun daytrips or vacations together), avoid the TRUE, harcore nerd. He will sink every penny into his action figures and every moment into his nerd hobbies. Just sayin'

Anonymous's picture

I've been dating a nerdy guy four a year and a half now and he's the best person ever. As I read each point above, it made me realize just how amazing he really is! I never saw myself with this kind of guy but I took a chance with him and I'm glad I did. He's so smart and I love that he can teach me just as many things as I can teach him. He does have his weird interests but I find them cute. I'd much rather date a guy I know who will stay home on a Friday night with his friends doing nerdy stuff than be with a guy I'm unsure about and whether he's being good or bad. He likes to cuddle, he's attentive and treats me like a princess and I would ask for nothing more!!

Anonymous's picture

Yes. Don't go for 'hardcore' nerds. Try a nerd who is a bit less obsessed over somthing like starwars for example. As they will probably like their little collection of toys more than anything

Anonymous's picture

I don't think the author of this article has delved in to the cornucopia of nerd dating. It's hard to pin down the nerd referred to here (let alone any human being with these qualities). One of the things that isolated your high school nerds from the rest of society is their inability to connect with many human emotions. They can't relate. The "passion" (try obsession) mentioned upstairs is also misleading. Their passions are what drive their relationship potentials away. Just because they're capable of being passionate doesn't mean they're going to be passionate about everything. Nerds have preferences in the opposite gender just like everyone else, so pay attention still to what makes you a viable candidate for their affection. Unfortunately, nerds have become hard to find since my high school years, as they became a fashionable dating trend for the girls who used to be cheerleaders and have now turned hipster or club-goer (seriously, girls, do you have to take every man in the world away from us nerd chicks?). Read American Nerd: The Story of My People if you are truly interested in understanding nerds and not desperately seeking someone to fulfill your need for the above unrealistic worship. If you're looking for someone to idolize you, try starting with someone with whom you share interests, activities and morals. Duh.

Anonymous's picture

Sounds like you're just projecting Megan, sorry you had such a rough time dating. It seems more you're the pretentious self idolizing girl who is too self conscious to let someone fully love her. You say, 'obsession' no one obsesses over you, that is your self idolizing talking again. Nerds are so self conscious they don't try after they are shut down, they learned how to take the hint. You really need to grow up and stop hating on nerds, really the most straight forward guys I have ever met.
They'll always have a place in my heart <3

Anonymous's picture

You forgot Reason # 11: Nerds typically have low self-esteem and are easy to control and manipulate,

Anonymous's picture

this girl im talking to sent me this in a link because she says it reminds me of me, and its pretty accurate lol awesome

Anonymous's picture

There are, of course, all types of nerds and geeks out there. It's about finding the right one. I recently released a song about the idea that women don't have to be super hot to get a really nice nerd guy. As long as they know how to lure him in.
The song is called "Geeks Don't Care". If you'd like to hear it, it's at http://bit.ly/geeksong

Anonymous's picture

I heard bill gates is a jerk and he's a geek

Anonymous's picture

I heard bill gates is a jerk and he's a geek

Anonymous's picture

I agree with the above comment; I dated a nerd too several years ago in high school. He was my lab buddy in science class and would always help me on quizzes and projects. We became a couple at the end of that year and for the first few weeks, he fit the above article description to a tee.. he was sweet, affectionate, and very appreciative of me. I thought I had died and gone to heaven.. and then one day that suddenly changed. He started telling me that I was "stupid" compared to him and would call me names like "idiot" and "moron". He started acting as though his intelligence compared to mine made him superior to me and belittled me for everything I did until the day we finally broke up (luckily I got outta there quickly; we were only an item for three months), but I was stunned and heartbroken that he turned on me so suddenly and cruelly...after he had started off as the best guy I had ever dated, even to this day (I normally dated classic "bad boys", both before and after this guy). So I agree that even with "nerdy" guys, you still have to be careful (we are all human, and ALL humans can make mistakes and screw up). But even after this one bad experience, I still think MOST nerds are still better than "bad boys" out there.. I would still date a nerd again if I actually met one who was both intelligent AND genuinely kind. KINDNESS is the key :)

Anonymous's picture

Sorry!! I meant that I agree with the *last* comment before mine.. lol.

Anonymous's picture

No. That is the silliest thing I have ever heard.
Bill Gates donated $250,000,000 to charities, orphanages, and random people that were in a lot of debt. He was also very nice, and would be very generous. Do you want to hear a jerky geek? Steve Jobs. He is very selfish. Steve helped Bill Gates create the first iPad, and Bill decided to let Steve have it to sell from his company. Steve, however, didn't give any credit to Bill.
Your arrogance offends me.

kassieme's picture

AMEN Girlfriend. I had the same experience. Except my ex was obsessed with League of Legends and Halo. He would sleep in till 3 pm and couldnt pay his bills because he was lazy and unmotivated. And has been working on his undergraduate degree for 8 years. What a waste of intelligence and a fine body and big package!

zack's picture

Ok that's A geek. There 2 kinds of people nerds/geeks
nerds: will do all of the above
geeks: will do what you decribed there

ps. to all the ladies MAKE SURE HES A NERD! AVOID GEEKS AT ALL COSTS

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